June 30, 2009

Welcome to Dramaville. Population: YOU!

June 2, 2007

You Are As Cool As They Come
Rational and relaxed, no one could accuse you of being dramatic.
You roll with the punches, and nothing ever gets you too worked up.
You are able to maintain perspective and see the big picture.
And even if you're emotional inside, you don't let it show.
You're great at keeping it together, and you're rewarded for that.
People see you as an ideal friend, employee, and partner.
Are You a Drama Queen (or King)?

I was talking to my friend the other day and our discussion turned to Drama Queens. We both agreed that women between the ages of 25-45 should forgo the high school antics and try to behave properly. Well, at least in this respect. ;)

I must preface this by saying that not all drama queens are women. I want to be fair in this blog and we ALL know at least one overly dramatic male. Though they are far & few between and usually only prevalent in the gay community. However, more often than not, drama queens are generally of the female persuasion. These people need to FEEL something, anything. Whether it's jealousy or self-absorption…it's there and it's usually negative. What is funny is that if you are a drama queen to the fullest effect, this more than likely means you have a personality disorder. Seek out a professional. Come back down to earth.

Point blank….a drama queen is an attention whore. A person who thrives on theatrical displays. Someone who takes their emotions to the extreme, completely bypassing the middle ground. Why do women succumb to this behavior? Who knows? Maybe it defines who they are. Maybe they are so emotionally cluttered there is no other option. Maybe they are needy and weak. Maybe they are uninteresting or monotonous in their life. Maybe...gasp...just maybe...they are insecure.

My personal opinion is that if you are not a pre-teen or teenager, if you're not going through puberty and screaming down life's emotional rollercoaster, you needn't be so dramatic. Seriously. It comes to just this. You are a challenge to be around. You are difficult to be friends with. WE don't want to buy into what you are selling. We don't have the extra attention to give to you! It is not about you in the adult world. It is about all of us, individually, in our own life and our own space. You are not the only person that matters in my world. Sorry.

But, wait…how about this? Choose happiness. It's not a difficult choice or a difficult task. Wake up and choose to be happy. You make the choices in your life and you can choose any path you want. The dramatic road would be one I don't want to travel down. Spending your life bouncing from one crisis to the next is not someplace I want to be. Plus, people WANT happy people in their lives.

Now, truth be told, everyone has a little bit of drama inside. Completely normal and acceptable. Life isn't always a bed of roses. Most of us just let this out on occasion and when the situation really warrants it. We also know that this explosive and rash behavior won't solve anything. There aren't any benefits to reap from poor behavior. It's not an effective way of communicating or interacting with people. Let's learn to deal with our emotional matrix.

After all, there are no problems…only solutions.


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